According to nationally known top private investigator Bill Mitchell, most victims are in denial about being cheated on by a spouse or lover.
What Is Denial?
Denial is a way to avoid facing the negative consequences of reality (possible divorce, broken family, financial loss).
You're In Denial...
- When you're unwilling to face that your partner cheated on you on either a conscious or subconscious level.
- When you act as though there are no problems to face.
- When you become defensive to protect yourself from the pain, hurt or suffering as a result of a cheating partner.
- When you mask to hide your real feelings or emotions.
- When you avoid the reality of the situation to prevent conflict, disagreements or disapproval from your cheating spouse or partner.
- When you lie to yourself to maintain your sanity when experiencing unbearable pain.
- Avoiding reality is your way to repress the truth about loss trust as way to continue to function in "normally."
- When you'd rather lie to yourself because it's more important for you to "look good." (What will my friends and family think?)
- If you avoid the risk of change as a result of problems or loss (I've been married for "X" years, what will I do?).
If all the tell-tale signs point to cheating and you decide not to deal with it, YOU'RE IN DENIAL!
Do you find yourself denying your very existence to make everyone around you happy.
Common Signs of Denial...
- You have too much to lose if you don't. An example is the classic case of a married man or woman who is in love with someone besides their spouse, but they obviously can't admit it because they have too much to lose. So they live a life of quiet desperation.
- Nothing will come of admitting the truth. Just like the above scenario, the person lives in denial because, to admit to whatever, will not bring any change to a situation.
- Can't handle facing the truth. Some people live in denial because the truth is too much to bear. It might imply the worst about themselves or create conflict and contradictions too impossible to deal with.
- Don't want to hurt those who love you. Denying the truth about something might occur when we're trying to protect those who love us.
- Trying to avoid arguments and debates. Sometimes we deny the truth to avoid getting into arguments with others. Some people will pick a fight and start trouble with the "truth," so we just deny our true feelings.
- You can't handle rejection and ridicule. Many people deny what they really feel because if they admit to it, they will be either rejected or ridiculed and their pride or low self-esteem can't handle it.
But, The Reality Is...
- Your situation will only get worse as time goes on; hiding your head in the sand, turning to alcohol, drugs, or work, won't change how you really feel.
- Adultery/Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal, in fact it's nothing short of a fatality.
- Not knowing the truth leaves you feeling hopeless and helpless.
If you suspect your husband/wife/partner has betrayed you, it's time to take action. If you want to re-gain control of your life and feel liberated and empowered, It's Time To Act, Now!.
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